The concept that I found most interesting was the relational development and the stages in intimate dyads. I am currently in a romantic relationship and it is really intriguing to relate the steps in the book to how we intimately grew closer to each other. In my romantic relationship, we did go through the experience the relational development stages of initiating stage, experimenting stage, the intensifying stage, the integrating stage, and finally the intimacy stage.
When we first met, we were in the initiating stage of carefully observing each other for cues preferable cues of personality, attitudes, etc. In the initiating stage we were both very careful with our filters to make sure that we want to get to know each other more. Then we went on to the experimenting stage where we got to know each other a little more through relaxing conversations. Because I enjoyed the information that was revealed about my boyfriend, and he seemed to like what I revealed about myself as well so we both moved on to the integrating stage. In this stage, we became an intimate couple. We care about each other, we enjoy each others company, we love each other, and we share belongings, friends, family, etc. In this stage, we find ourselves discussing really deep intimate things that we normally wouldn't talk about with other people. This is the stage where we really trust each other. I believe that we are moving on to a deeper level of committing that might be leading towards engagement. Even though we know each other pretty well, I believe that we will still be cautious and take it slow just to get to know other some more before taking a huge step into marriage.
Signing out,
Events Dreamer
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